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054 | Us & Kids: Speechlessness - I Have Nothing to Say

Inspiration from this Episode

“By saying you have nothing to say, you are saying a lot.” 

“What can you say? Other than being filled with just joy and awe.”

“In those moments, take a minute to just let your heart beam right out of your body and out of your face.”

 

054 | Us & Kids: Speechlessness - I Have Nothing to Say

 

Intro 

For today’s show, things felt a little different in the fact that I felt like I had nothing to say. But once I dove into the “I have nothing to say”, my brain dove into the feeling that I have all sorts of things to say.

Ever been speechless? Stunned...or shamed into silence? So tired you can not make a sentence? Or over thinking something without a clear thought or direction at all? What creates those moments? What should we do with them? How do we find words or expressions that actually free us up without creating another big fuss?

 

What You’ll Learn in Today’s...

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053 | Us & Kids: Parenting Refresher

Inspiration from this Episode 

“You are the best buffer in terms of absorbing stress so that they can continue to develop the best way that they can.”

“We forget that we can quickly and easily overstimulate them.”

“Lower your voice, lower the speed of the interactions."

 

053 | Us & Kids: Parenting Refresher

 

Intro  

On today’s show, we are going to talk about our kiddos and come at it from the angle of parenting. We have to make sure we understand what is happening as our kiddos make this adjustment into school.

The kids might be a few weeks into school and this might be a time where things start to crumble. So I am here to give you a bit of encouragement that you can pass on to them. We talked a little bit about this in previous episodes and now we are going to do a little refresher.

 

What You’ll Learn in Today’s Episode

  • Kids react how they know how.
  • How to absorb the stress for the kids.
  • ...
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052 | Us & Kids: Keys To Your Car & Relationships

Inspiration from this Episode

“If it doesn’t fit together well, the relationship doesn’t work as well.”

“This represents a relationship where we are clicking together even though we don’t have to be exactly matched up at the moment.”

“We want you to be able to comfort each other compassionately, wisely, with encouragement.”

 

052 | Us & Kids: Keys To Your Car & Relationships

 

Intro 

On today’s show, we are taking a little more lighthearted approach and we’re talking about keys. More specifically talking about car keys but we will start out with just keys in general. We use keys for things like our home, car, maybe a bike lock, but what do they have to do with a relationship anyways?

A key by itself without a lock or something to go into, is not usually of much value. We find loose keys around the house and they eventually get thrown because they are for something we don’t have or use...

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051 | Us & Kids: Back to School One Way or Another

How to keep the back-to-school-crazy out of the kids and you!

Inspiration from this Episode

“Your kindness in this is really important to them feeling confident.”

“You’re the person who is going to absorb some of this fear and trade that fear in for them with some calmness and some courage.”

“It’s their brains' way of figuring it out and getting rid of the fear that doesn’t have words.”

 

051 | Us & Kids: Back to School

 

Intro 

On today’s show, we are talking about the big topic of going back to school. I know going back to school for our kids right now and for us parents just feels daunting and weird. I'm sure by now you have looked through what your schools are offering and what the choices are for online versus in person.

Remember that the best thing you can do for your kiddo, no matter where they're going, is to be supportive of them. You are the best buffer for them against the stress they are...

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047 | Us & Kids: Conflict Resolution: Finding a Longer-lasting Solution

Inspiration from this Episode

 “Every person has value, and their thoughts and reactions develop out of their own life experiences.”

 “For good conflict resolution, the first need is to check in with yourself - what is going on with you emotionally and relationally.”

 “If the engaged person ups the energy and the worried person ups their reactivity and anxiety, then you are going to have a dandy dysfunctional fight.”

 

047 | Us & Kids: Conflict Resolution

 

Intro 

On today’s show, we are talking about conflict resolution and what it looks like in parenting and marriage. Conflict resolution is a mouthful of ideas, experiences, emotions and words! No wonder it’s so hard to figure a way out of it. No wonder we want to just run from it.

Are you tired of fighting about the same things over and over again? What if we turned it upside down and looked first at ourselves, then at the problem and then at the...

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044 | Us & Kids: Big Emotions for Adults

Inspiration from this Episode

“It doesn’t always matter where we start. It just matters that we start somewhere.”

“There are some personalities that are a bit more prone to having really intense emotions.” 

“Learn what your body is trying to say - from the wee whisper of tension to the full intensity.”

 

044 | Us & Kids: Big Emotions for Adults

 

Intro 

On today’s show, we are talking about feelings - a pretty normal part of our life. At some points over our life and even 2020, we have ones we don’t really know what to do with. Where do those big feelings come from? Some of us have them a lot and often, and some of us have them rarely so when they show up we’re thinking “Where did this come from?”

This week we are talking about our emotions and next week we will talk about our kiddos. When we understand some of the triggers that might put us into tension and emotional states, we can be...

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042 | Us & Kids: Father's Day

Inspiration from this Episode

 “The bonding or the connections with your little one starts with pregnancy.”

 “It gives the two of you, husband and wife, a way to bond around this little one, and starts to build that base for the two of you.”

 “So they want to connect to your smell, your touch, your eyes, and your voice. It settles them down.”

 

042 | Us & Kids: Father’s Day

 

Intro 

On today’s show, our topic is about fathers. I know Father's Day just passed last week and so we just wanted to let you keep thinking about it. There can be a lot of pressure around dads. And sometimes it's important to understand “What's my role in this?”. So I wonder what do you think, is being a dad great? Is having your husband next to you, as the dad, wonderful? Or are you both as husband and wife a little confused by what's the role of a dad?

Some people think it’s easier than being a mom. Well,...

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041 | Us & Kids: Hole in the Bucket

Inspiration from this Episode

“There's a hole in the bucket but for us, there might be a hole in our heart.”

“We often have to throw out seven ideas before we come up with a reasonably good idea and then that probably has to be fine tuned.”

“They're going to tell me about the hole and I'm going to listen carefully so that I understand it.”

 

041 | Us & Kids: Hole in the Bucket

 

Intro 

On today’s show, we're talking about a hole in our bucket. I'm curious, do you know this song? It's about two characters - Henry and Eliza. Henry has a leaky bucket and Lysa just wants him to fix it. The song describes a deadlock situation where the things you need are dependent on the things you currently don’t have.

My question for you is, are there decisions made in your house that sounds like this song. Is there one parent who always needs something done or fixed and just wants it finished now? Does the other parent always seem to...

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039 | Us & Kids: D is for Divorce

Inspiration from this Episode

“And what's supposed to have been built in its place while they dissipate is really good emotional bonding.”

“By using really good listening skills, along with saying what they knew was going on emotionally, they bonded and connected in even better and stronger ways."

“They wanted their compassion and care and empathy to be able to help them through the rough spots.”

 

039 | Us & Kids: D is for Divorce

 

Intro 

On today’s show we are talking about the D seed of divorce. When does this snarly seed get planted - and how can we weed it out before it overtakes our thoughts, reactions and relationships. The Divorce seed does not need to stay. Take a few minutes to learn how to pull it out and keep your marriage steady, strong and safe.

This is exactly the reason why I developed Us and Kids and the DNA for Fun communications course. The seeds are planted, often in those first few years of parenting, and...

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036 | Us & Kids: Uncertainty Can Make us Crazy

Inspiration from this Episode

“He knew that the best thing he could do for me was listen, without many words.”

“How can I help you? And that question, may not have an answer, like I don't really have an answer for him, but it means I'm in it with you.”

“I understand you can't control everything and move forward based on what you can know and do as you move forward.”

 

036 | Us & Kids: Uncertainty Can Make us Crazy

 

Intro 

On today’s show, let’s be certain about what we’re talking about - uncertainty. There is so much going on and changing everyday in our homes, our hearts and our relationships. We are told one thing and then what feels like almost instantly that answer changes. 

Do we just have to sit and spin in circles because nothing's for sure? Or is there a way to keep ourselves calm and keep on track? When we take the time to understand that we can’t control everything, it helps us regain...

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