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“As we get to know that information, we’ll be able to change what else were thinking and what else we need to say.”

“Now we can work towards a picture and an idea and a goal more.”

“There are approaches that build oxytocin, and oxytocin builds the idea that we’re connected.”

096 | Us & Kids: 10 Tips for Talking

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On today’s show, we're going to do 10 tips about talking. We're going to borrow some from the corporate world and the neurophysiological world. We talk about speaking in our course but we’re going to take it a little differently and apply what we know from corporate studies of communication in groups and upper management and apply those to our own relationships. 

I think it's fairly easily done and it's just a little different way of thinking about things that often can open up and help us just make those 3-5% shifts that make such a difference in our...

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“The most important kind of play is usually free play, especially for kiddos but for some adults as well.”

“This just shows your kiddo that you're involved. that you're there for them and it builds their confidence.”

“You will learn things about how she's playing, but she sees you as an important role.”

094 | Us & Kids: 10 Tips for Playing with Kids

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On today's show, we are talking about the 10 tips for playing with your kiddos. This is not about how to have your kids play by themselves, this is 10 tips for how you can best play with your kiddos. When we play, we are so busy using so many different aspects of her brain, problem-solving, and creative and trying new things. 

Play is our brain's favorite way of learning. We don't learn separate from play, we learn while playing. Have fun with your kiddos as you listen to these 10 tips. I'm hoping that you find one or two that you like...

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“For kiddos, we want them to understand that they have feelings and emotions and we help them put labels to them.”

“Put yourself in their shoes, understand their perspective. This is a key part of building empathy.”

“This is my looking for ways to help her and ways to apply how I use empathy and perspective for her age.”

089 | Us & Kids: Empathy

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On today’s show, we are using the DNA method. We are going to need to Define our desires or a dream. And that means today my dream or my desire is being emotionally connected with my family and with other people in very kind ways. What is my N, my necessary skill? Today is going to be about empathy. And the A is, how are we going to apply it? Empathy, yes for anyone in our family. 

In order for everyone to get on the same page, we need to know exactly what we mean by the word empathy. That is part of defining our dreams and desires, is...

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“That is why when we blend imagination and let it grow into confidence through our conversations.”

“Where you would like to become better, you would like to have more confidence in your skill.”

“I'm going to practice it in my mind, I might even practice some of it out loud by myself.”

088 | Us & Kids: Imagination and Confidence

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On today’s show, our topic is all about using our imagination to build confidence and this is a timeless podcast because we are always as adults and as kiddos encountering new things and we can either become scared and a little shaky or unsure of ourselves, losing our confidence or we can be confident of ourselves and what we are able to do. 

Imagination plays a significant role in building up and maintaining confidence. Let’s talk, first of all, about what do I mean by imagination? And I think using our imagination is using our brain to...

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“What I would desire to model would be the skill of being truthful and kind or tactful.”

“We can both be honest and cooperate and that's what we did.”

“Be sure you don't reward the lies, especially when our little ones are talking. I don't mind the storytelling. It's a use of their imagination.”

087 | Us & Kids: Truth or Lie

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On today’s show, we're going to talk about being honest. Now, honesty can come in many forms, right? Honest to ourselves, honest with others, honest about our emotions. When you hear the word honest, or when someone says to you, oh come on, be honest. How do you respond? 

Are there different levels of honesty? Because then, that begs the question about are there different levels of lies? And what do you want to teach your kids about being honest and about lying? The two conversations sort of go together, don't they?

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“Then, they're going to be empowered by your love. They need unconditional love.” 

“There's one more thing that the person bringing support would bring, and that is the ability to think a little bit more clearly.” 

“Because, as you do, your hopes and dreams, your desires for your family relationships and marriage, will come together, because you will become more connected.”

085 | Us & Kids: How Can I Help?

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On today’s show, we're talking about, "How can I help?" Or, "How can I support?" So, we're going to work our way through the word SUPPORT in an acronym sort of way. But, looking at each letter briefly from both: What if you're looking for support, what would you do?; And, if you're offering support, or being asked to support someone, or help someone, what's your best way to respond? What skill is usually best in that situation? 

You know hanging around...

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“And so in the long run it can hold us back from taking more courageous steps because were not sure of the end result.”

“Kids and adults can hear when we’re insincere and when we’re not interested. Use your praise and affirmation in ways that match the intensity of the effort.”

“They need different ways of being encouraged in order to grow that courage inside of them.”

084 | Us & Kids: Encourage

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It takes a lot of courage to stay married forever while you parent together and it also takes a lot of encouragement to do that. The DNA method of communication often talks about this need for having courage. But also how to use encouragement to help build up the courage. We know this is worth the work, being married forever while you parent together is so very rewarding. 

So today I just wanted to talk a little bit about how do we help each other? How do we encourage...

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“Encouragement or having courage we can tell that by somebody who says yes, I can do that.”

“Give your kids some room for grace because self-confidence also comes as we practice something and grow proficient in it.”

“These are people who are compassionate they put other people’s needs before their own without worrying about what they’re going to lose.”

083 | Us & Kids: In Courage

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On today’s show, were going to talk about being in a space of Courage. So you might think, okay well you know courage is for when there’s something really scary and sometimes just like courage. That’s not a problem. I just go and do what I need to do.  

But do you know why and there are people who get stumped and just can’t seem to move forward or goes so slow? Like what’s taking you so long? This podcast will answer those great questions! Everyday...

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“When we eat a good meal, this will help you manage your emotional self, which will keep you calmer and start the day off on the right foot. 

“When we stay away from shameful things, we are now protecting ourselves, because we are worth protecting.” 

“And often, we can stay away from those shameful things by telling the TRUTH to ourselves and to others kindly.”

082 | Us & Kids: EASTER

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On today’s show, we're going to talk about Easter. But, we're also going to fit that into our desires, and the skills that we need to achieve our desires. This is not a highly spiritual, Christian podcast in terms of that we're not going to talk all about the Jesus part of it. We're going to talk about the good human health part of it. We can make it so that it also works with everyday life, and how does it fit into your spiritual life. 

We are going to break down the word Easter....

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“His takeaway from that experience was valid, as was mine, even though our takeaways were a little bit different.”

“What did we want to do if we were ever in such traumatic places again?”

“It’s okay to talk about it. It’s okay to feel it and to relive it and to wonder about it.”

081 | Us & Kids: A Trauma

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On today’s show, we are going to talk about trauma. Not many of us like to think about it, but probably all of us have it. And trauma impacts families, it impacts marriages and impacts us as individuals. And yet I feel like it’s not very often talked about even though it often impacts how a family and a couple reacts and interacts with things. 

Today we are going to talk mostly from the general perspective about trauma with a little bit of application more towards the end. You will hear some of the DNA process.

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