Inspiration from this Episode
“Encouragement or having courage we can tell that by somebody who says yes, I can do that.”
“Give your kids some room for grace because self-confidence also comes as we practice something and grow proficient in it.”
“These are people who are compassionate they put other people’s needs before their own without worrying about what they’re going to lose.”
083 | Us & Kids: In Courage
Intro
On today’s show, were going to talk about being in a space of Courage. So you might think, okay well you know courage is for when there’s something really scary and sometimes just like courage. That’s not a problem. I just go and do what I need to do.
But do you know why and there are people who get stumped and just can’t seem to move forward or goes so slow? Like what’s taking you so long? This podcast will answer those great questions! Everyday...
Inspiration from this Episode
“When we eat a good meal, this will help you manage your emotional self, which will keep you calmer and start the day off on the right foot.
“When we stay away from shameful things, we are now protecting ourselves, because we are worth protecting.”
“And often, we can stay away from those shameful things by telling the TRUTH to ourselves and to others kindly.”
082 | Us & Kids: EASTER
Intro
On today’s show, we're going to talk about Easter. But, we're also going to fit that into our desires, and the skills that we need to achieve our desires. This is not a highly spiritual, Christian podcast in terms of that we're not going to talk all about the Jesus part of it. We're going to talk about the good human health part of it. We can make it so that it also works with everyday life, and how does it fit into your spiritual life.
We are going to break down the word Easter....
Inspiration from this Episode
“His takeaway from that experience was valid, as was mine, even though our takeaways were a little bit different.”
“What did we want to do if we were ever in such traumatic places again?”
“It’s okay to talk about it. It’s okay to feel it and to relive it and to wonder about it.”
081 | Us & Kids: A Trauma
Intro
On today’s show, we are going to talk about trauma. Not many of us like to think about it, but probably all of us have it. And trauma impacts families, it impacts marriages and impacts us as individuals. And yet I feel like it’s not very often talked about even though it often impacts how a family and a couple reacts and interacts with things.
Today we are going to talk mostly from the general perspective about trauma with a little bit of application more towards the end. You will hear some of the DNA process.
What You’ll Learn in...
Inspiration from this Episode
“Remember that our skin, her skin, absorbs so many good messages about safety and about togetherness, and I’m there for you.”
“She will reset not instantly but with ups and downs over the next few months.”
“Because the best parenting here is usually to have some rules, expectations, to have rewards, and to have distractions.”
080 | Us & Kids: Adjusting to a Newborn
Intro
So today’s show, we are going to talk a little bit more about the DNA process. We’ve been talking a lot about marriages lately and when I wanted to do was say, okay, let’s pay attention to those kiddos. So we’re just going to talk a little bit about one of your hopes and dreams.
If you’re listening to Us and Kids, you probably had a desire to have a family, and that’s part of what that D is in the DNA. What are your dreams? What are your desires and...
Inspiration from this Episode
“And you’re going to say, I got to think about this a little bit. And both of you are going to take some time to get your heart rate down so that your brain can think.”
“I’m going to begin to understand that this has lots of layers for them in terms of how they think other people see them.”
“Give grace and say it’s okay and we use our adjustment coping skills to not hold a grudge or be harsh with punishment or discipline.”
079 | Us & Kids: A+ for Application
Intro
Today, I'm glad you joined us because were tying together the last three podcast about upgrading your marriage so that it will last forever, while you also become more awesome parents taking care of your kids together.
We’ve talked about the D, defining your desires, and values. Then we moved on to two other podcasts that talked about the core communication skills we need for living out those values and ways...
Inspiration from this Episode
“And in those connections, we become more aware that the emotional self that we bring to the relationship.”
“You see when we need to protect someone we believe in them. We are looking at helping them out in building them up.”
“It gives grace when we have to have some benefit of the doubt.”
078 | Us & Kids: Necessary for Your Core - Part 2
Intro
Today we are talking about the last three of the eight core or necessary pieces that we know to make the DNA in our marriage and our family life really strong and healthy. You and I both know our marriages are very unique. And even how our marriage was five years ago and how it is now also can be very different and looks very different.
It's important that we know how to keep those values together. Not every marriage, or person in the marriage has the same values but learning how to value what our spouse values and vice versa...
Inspiration from this Episode
“Those connections through kind words and kind actions matter for the rest of what happens in our relationship DNA.”
“And that means that you know how to listen carefully and you know how to keep your own self under control so that you can continue to connect with those that are listening.”
“If you want to give all of that a little boost use some touch, hold hands, sit by each other, use hugs.”
077 | Us & Kids: Necessary Core Strengths
Intro
Last week we looked at the values that we bring into our relationship and how those values build up the basic structure of our relationships with our kids or even with our spouses. So today we’re going to look a little bit more at the particulars that hold this structure together.
This structure is in the particulars were going to talk about are important for your marriage and for any age kiddo that is sitting next to you. So this applies all...
Inspiration from this Episode
“Then they can bring our actions and our words and our attitudes all in line to help us achieve our goals.”
“We had to work to compare those values because they influence our desires in our vision for a marriage and a family.”
“We just had to shave some rough edges off in order to create shared values that we honored.”
076 | Us & Kids: Best Marriage Ever
Intro
In today’s show, we are focusing on building up the skills we need for helping our marriages and our families regardless of the messiness of life. Today we are going to talk about DNA and we are looking at DNA within your relationships, your marriage, and your family because that too is always going to be unique just to you and so we can’t make a course or a program that is going to be one size fits all.
This week we are diving into the D strand specifically and while the D strand could stand for a lot of different things, we...
Inspiration from this Episode
“Shame is our most powerful master emotion - meaning it has a lot of power and it’s a master over the other emotions.”
“You could though be a very honorable and integral part of the functioning of those things.”
“They will feel comfortable with you and be able to calm down and take responsibility for their actions.”
075 | Us & Kids: Shame, Responsibility and Honor
Intro
On today’s show, we are diving into shame and responsibility and it’s going to apply both to you as a husband or wife, and how you interact with your kiddos. We’re going to start by talking about yourself because so much of our parenting and interactions in our marriage can come from a place of shame and that can be somewhat contagious.
The podcast today will help you understand where shame sneaks into your heart and mind...and how it sneaks into kiddos’ being as well. And...
Inspiration from this Episode
“When the stress is high, often kisses go bye-bye.”
“And when it builds up inside of us, our brain becomes anxious and can’t think well.”
“As you change your self talk, your internal thoughts can move to become more positive.”
074 | Us & Kids: KISSes & Stress
Intro
On today’s show, we are wrapping up the last part of a 5 part series we started in January about how to stay married forever while you parent together - not one or the other. Today we are talking about KISSes. Of course, there has to be kisses! Eskimo and butterfly kisses, as well as I love you - oooh! kisses.
But when there is stress and headaches, so much and too much! Who even remembers to kiss? And, does it really matter if we kiss? Really? Well, if you can take care of this kind of KISS, then the other kisses are so much better and sweeter!
What You’ll Learn in Today’s Episode
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